The apology every battered woman has heard a million times


Paige Patterson hasn’t just enabled abusive men through his careless words stretched over decades. He is an abuser himself.

Today, under increasing pressure, Patterson has issued his fourth statement in two weeks. First, he was being attacked. Second, he only meant “non-injurious physical abuse.” Then, he had nothing to apologize for. And now, he offers a partial apology.

He wants to keep his job. So he’s going through the motions. Last night, Patterson slept in a house paid for by Southern Baptists. On a bed that is made by servants paid for by Southern Baptists. Across campus, Southern Baptists are building him another home.

Meanwhile, there’s a student worker who still doesn’t have a job.

Paige wants to be forgiven for dragging the Southern Baptist Convention through weeks of turmoil.  He’s the typical abuser who wants to be forgiven for everything he’s done, but he can’t quite tell you everything he’s done.

But a Tweet?  That’s enough to cost a twenty-something student his job and his scholarship.  A seventy-five year old man who’s been forced into a public apology for his actions and words twice in the last four years, however?

He deserves to keep his houses and servants and cars and expense accounts. And his wife gets to keep her car and driver too.

Even when Paige apologizes, it’s twisted syntax and nuanced deflections.

“Please forgive the failure to be as thoughtful and careful in my extemporaneous expression as I should have been,” Paige now cries.

Hand me my hanky.

Southern Baptists will walk into the Dallas convention, not after weeks but years of Paige Patterson’s abuse of power, influence, and institutional resources.

That kind of abuse is grounds for divorce.

Oh, that’s right. The Bible doesn’t allow divorce in Paige Patterson’s world.

Then again, maybe what he’s done to the public witness of 15 million Southern Baptists … what he’s done to the institution entrusted to his care … what he’s done for so many years, is only “non-injurious abuse.”

So let me offer Southern Baptists the advice Paige Patterson would never give to a battered woman.

Change the locks.

It’s what he advised another group of Southwestern trustees to do not many years ago.


6 thoughts on “The apology every battered woman has heard a million times

  1. This is about the third press release about the exact same scandal. Any other institution would have their president out the door by now.

  2. What PP did not back down from is his harmful stance that divorce is never an option, even in cases of abuse. He is an intentional person and I can only assume that this is a deliberate omission.

  3. “I sincerely pray that somehow this apology will show my heart” meaning “See, I was a good guy a along and you just didn’t perceive it.”

  4. “I wish to apologize to every woman who has been wounded by anything I have said that was inappropriate or that lacked clarity.” He still doesn’t get it. It’s not about what he said in the pulpit. It’s about what he DID to a battered wife 54 years ago. He needs to repent and apologize to her, personally. It’s about the 16-year-old girl he objectified and leered at. He needs to repent and apologize to her, personally. Then, to set the right example for his current students, he needs to step down from his leadership position. Immediately. Anything less is just so much posturing, pride, equivocation, and just plain ol’ fashioned

    1. I agree…..this situation is pathetic, and the ‘apology’ is meaningless. It says nothing.

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